Anger in Parenting

Date: 11/30/2018

QIC: Squatter

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The Thang:

Anger in Parenting

Ephesians 6:4 – Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

25 Ways to Provoke Your Children to Anger: (from The Heart of Anger – Lou Priolo)
1.Lack of marital harmony
2.Establishing and maintaining a child-centered home
3. Modeling sinful anger
4. Habitually disciplining in anger
5. Scolding
6. Being inconsistent with discipline
7. Having double standards
8. Being legalistic
9. Not admitting you’re wrong and not asking for forgiveness
10. Constantly finding fault
11. Parents reversing God-given roles
12. Not listening to your child’s opinion or taking his or her ‘side of the story’ seriously
13. Comparing them to others
14. Not making time ‘just to talk’
15. Not praising or encouraging your child
16. Failing to keep your promises
17. Chastening in front of others
18. Not allowing enough freedom
19. Allowing too much freedom
20. Mocking your child
21. Abusing them physically
22. Ridiculing or name calling
23. Unrealistic expectations
24. Practicing favoritism
25. Child training with worldly methodologies inconsistent with God’s Word.

Repenting from Provoking Children to Anger:
1. Identify how you are provoking them to Anger
2. Confess these sins to God
3. Apologize to Child

How to apologize:
A. Acknowledge that you have sinned
B. Identify the sin
C. Identify what you should have done
D. Ask for forgiveness

4. Develop a plan to replace sinful behaviors with biblical alternatives
5. Consider ways to provoke love and good deeds

How to TRAIN our children to handle anger?
Have the child…
1. Acknowledge sinful form of communication (e.g. disrespectful tone)
2. Ask forgiveness
3. Rehearse appropriate behavior

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Moleskin:
Great discussion and several pearls of wisdom shared for all ages of parenting. As you can see, this book contains lots of lists. I like lists! But, we also need to remember that we can’t reduce parenting to a list or formula. We all desperately need the Holy Spirit to empower us to be better parents. Thanks for letting me share my struggles this morning. I hope you can use some of this information to reign in Anger in your home. Iron Sharpens Iron!

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